Things To STOP Doing in 2010
- Thinking you're alone. You're not. There are communities for customer reference professionals (I've linked to one). Don't forget that (some people do). Join them Form a master mind group of reference professionals. This is great for your sense of personal well being as well as professional growth and visiblity.
- Feeling guilty. Stop beating yourself up. It's probably not your fault. If it is, aplogize and move on. It will free up lots of emotional energy and creativity.
- Comparing yourself to others.It never helps. Redirect that energy into enjoying yourself and the hand you were dealt.
- Failing to invest in yourself. What will it take to make you a better person and better professional? Invest time, money and effort in these things. You either grow or die in this world. Invest in yourself. (Shameless promotion alert). The Customer Reference Forum is a good place to start.
- Creating lots of priorities. Having 44 priorities means you really have none. PIck 2 or 3 things and advance them a mile. Put the other 41 on a list to do later.
- Hesitating. Move when you're 80% ready, move. This is the classic, and most effective application of the 80/20 rule. If you're not practicing it, you're a perfectionist. And perfectionists are serious under performers.
- Spending time on the frivolous. This doesn't mean don't have fun, enjoy yourself, goof around once in awhile, have outside interests, etc. It does mean stop spending quality time doing things like cultivating references who don't matter to sales or marketing, Make a list now of those things you're doing that are frivolous. Cut them out now. You can give yourself two additional hours a week by spending 20 minutes thinking about this.
- Not planning your day. If you walk into your office wondering what you're going to be doing that day, you're starting in a hole. Write it down, the day before, in some sort of calendar system. Keep it in front of you. And close by you should have a visible list of your goals for the year that you review regularly (at least a few times per week).
- Being a victim. Refuse to be a victim. Don't hang around victims (or if you must, change the subject when they go into victim mode--you'll do both of yourselves a favor). You are master of your fate. You can't master what others do (though you can sometimes influence them). You can't control what's happening at the summit on climate change. But you can master how you respond to the deck you're dealt--or change the game for yourself altogether.
- Wasting time with people who don't know what they're talking about. In Texas, we call them "all hat, no cattle." Stop taking, or accepting, advise from people who haven't done it themselves. There are hundreds of people in our community who HAVE done it. Seek them out.
- Assuming people are damaged--whether colleagues, customers, senior management. Start by assuming they're rational and well intentioned--until proven otherwise. This will save a lot of worry time.

